Overcoming a Victim Mentality

The victim sees himself to be a result of the attitudes/actions of others and is very vulnerable to continual offense. His motto is as follows: "I am like I am because you are like you are. If you would not be like you are, I would not be like I am." He requires an enemy to authenticate his victimhood and will easily find that which he requires.

The impact on the person who sees himself in these terms is very significant. It affects his sense of significance. He will feel rejected by others and will consistently suffer from low esteem. This mentality will cause him to do and to say things that create new problems for himself and that will further convince himself of his victimhood.

Most of what he feels is perceptual and is the result of a faulty belief system. Unfortunately, many who have this mentality will not address it because of the perks involved and the fear of failure in human relationships.

To have victory, he must have a complete change of viewpoint. What he must do, he must do by choice. First he must forgive each person who has offended him for each thing done that was offensive.

Secondly, he must see himself as God created him to be. He can only discover this through the Word of God. He must see himself as a new creation and through that new creation having the attributes of Christ as his potential. He must see who he is in Jesus

Thirdly, he should identify the old destructive thoughts of defeat, rejection, and unworthiness in his belief system taking issue with them, and confessing such scriptures as:

"Now thanks be unto God, who always causeth us [me] to triumph in Christ, and maketh manifest the savor of his knowledge by us [me] in every place" (2 Corinthians 2:14).

"I can do all things through Christ, who strengtheneth me” (Philippians 4:13).

"He hath made [me] accepted in the Beloved; in whom [I] have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of his grace” (Ephesians 1:6b-7).

Fourthly, more than anything else, he should realize that he is loved by the Father.

Dear friend, if you are caught in this trap, reject your rejection today. Begin to confess to yourself, the devil, God and others who you really are. God will begin to flow through your belief system bringing it in line with who and what He says that you are. Your perception of yourself and others will change.

Jeff